... Our Wonderful Journey to Parenthood ...


Thursday, December 31, 2009

Happy New Year!

A quick update on the last day of 2009. :)

As per now, I'm in my 32.5 weeks and our baby has grown to 1.95kg. It's nearly 200gm increase from the last 2.5 weeks. I thought the growth as a bit little but Dr Karen actually told us that the previous growth of 400gm was a bit too much. Oooppsss... think it's because of the durians. :P

Baby is getting more and more active everyday and she actually hurts me sometimes as she kicks too much. 3rd trimester might be one of the hardest trimester throughout my whole pregnancy as I'm
(1) always feeling hot - I sweat like I have just ran two rounds at the taman after cooking dinner
(2) always feeling tired - sleeping for 8-9 hours doesn't seem enough!
(3) getting harder to find a comfortable position to lie down or to sleep as my dear baby is doing her funny actions inside that makes me can't breathe at time!
(4) feeling tired very easily - walking in shopping mall is a tough job now and I always look out for benches or chairs
(5) getting hard to move around esp. to get up from bed to go toilet when urination gets more and more frequent now - even EG finds it funny to see me trying to hard to get up from bed
(6) having my swelling feet that I can't fit in almost all of my shoes! :P

But I thank God that I'm only facing this now and I only have another 1.5 months to go! Yay!

Lastly, Happy New Year to all of you from daddy, mummy and baby Eunice. :)

Oh yah, my last ultrasound shows that our baby has hair now... How cute... :) :) :)

Friday, December 18, 2009

Crossing into 3rd Trimester

Some asked me, how do you feel carrying extra weight in front of you? Well, in fact, it doesn't happen suddenly, it happens slowly and somehow the body just have the way to cope with the extra weight as the baby grows inside.

I have finally crossed into my 3rd trimester. In my 2nd trimester, I was living as usual, eating as usual, sleeping as usual and watching tv as usual. I can walk in shopping malls for the whole morning. And I even walked in Midvalley for almost 6 hours just with a bottle of mineral water, and continued my shopping in SS2, and went for dinner @ Klang all the way till mid night. Even my parents in law were shocked that I'm still able to have so much energy to go out and walk so much.

Some said classical music helps in baby's intellectual development but I think my baby doesn't like it. :P... I can feel her moving restlessly inside me when I on the music for her. But, when her daddy-to-be plays his guitar, Oh well, you can feel her dancing inside. So, EG always says baby likes his songs too, esp. John Mayer's. :P

How's baby doing?
We went for checkup on my 28th week. Baby has grown from previous 714gm to 1.3kg!... Dr Karen mentioned that it's of normal size - not too big, not too small, just nice. And very luckily, we are able to see quite a clear face profile of our little angel... from the ultrasound, she looks like she has square chubby face - like her dad, big eyes and very obviously - thick lips. Hehehe...! I was telling EG i think our little one looks like him as her face is not small... EG was so touched during the ultrasound that he couldn't help to hold my hands during the ultrasound. :).

And I have to start going seeing Dr Karen every 2 weeks. That means I can see baby every 2 weeks too... :). On the 30th week, our baby has again put on another 470gm and her weight now is 1.77kg! Again, Dr Karen said the weight is just nice, and by the time when I need to deliver, the baby should be 3kg+. This round, baby is actively moving during the ultrasound and she could put her feet right in front of her face... Gosh! That's really flexible but Dr Karen said that's baby's favorite position. And again, we saw her thick lips, and we can see her yawning inside by opening and closing her mouth. So cute! Now, baby's head has already turned down but she has yet locked in.

How's mummy doing?
As I crossed into 3rd trimester, I noticed the major changes in me. I did read in magazines & internet that in 3rd trimester, mummy will feel extra lethargic. But I didn't expect it to be THAT tired. On my 30th week onwards, I feel dizzy almost at all time, and I couldn't move after work. So I stopped cooking dinner for almost a week as all I could do is only lying on sofa and watch tv or sleep.

As engineers, as usual, we tried to find out the root cause of me feeling so tired suddenly. The changes are too drastic. After a while, I found out eating IKO biscuit during tea time is not enough for me anymore. I felt better if I feed myself (& baby) with bread or something heavier. :P.

My fingers and feet started swelling and I couldn't wear my wedding ring anymore. :(... And I have problems walking in the morning as the feet swell and I feel tinge of pain when I stand up from my bed. I couldn't hold my fists tightly, and when I press my finger joints, I can feel a tinge of soreness & pain. It's all due to water retention that cause the swelling and apparently, there's nothing that I can do about it.

As my tummy grows bigger, I also have problem sleeping ad certain position makes me feel breathless. It took me a while to find a right position for me to have a good night sleep.

It's really not easy to be a mother. Even EG sympathizes me for having to go through all these and there's nothing that he can do to help me except helping me to do the house chores, cut my toe nails (I can't bend anymore), and massage my legs to prevent cramps at night. But thank God, I just have to bear for another 2 months! :)

How's daddy doing?
The daddy-to-be doesn't want his little one to be too big size which might cause complication during delivery later (since I'm not big size), nor he wants his wife, i.e. me, to put on too much weight. So, again, he watches my food, and instead of letting me eating bread or other carbo food, he bought granola bars for me to eat during tea time. How sweet! :)

Baby has been moving very very actively since I enter 3rd trimester. Daddy is very excited as she responded to his calls almost everytime. Even if he just puts his hand on my tummy, and call her "Baby..." a few times and waits for few minutes, baby will then give him a few kicks. It doesn't happen when others put their hands on my tummy!

Both of us couldn't wait for the arrival of our little angel. We are not afraid of taking care of baby, but we're more worried about what would happen during delivery as we can't possibly plan this as we'd never know what to expect on that day!

But I believe, that day will be a real exciting day! :)

Friday, December 11, 2009

How're we coping...

So, how's mummy doing? :)

My tummy started to grow bigger only in the 5th month. I was able to hide my tummy for the first 4 month - don't ask me why. I just didn't like it when ppl make a big deal out of me getting pregnant. But in my 5th month, I guess baby's growth has taken all the space in me and tummy started to bulge out. Not too big, but you can see that I'm pregnant.

Sometimes I do complain to EG that I feel both of us are very pity here in Penang. While all the other pregnant ladies have their mothers / mother in laws to boil nutritious soup for them everyday or every week, we have to do it all by ourselves. My mum is too far away, and we only go back EG's hometown once a month. But then again, everytime God has reassured me over and over again that His blessing will be over us and our baby, and we'll just be doing well like the rest!

To keep myself fit, I continue to do all the cooking and dishes everyday. But of course I stopped all the heavy ones like vacuum or mopping the floor. EG will be helping me doing it. I eat well and sleep well. And of course I watch out my food too as I still want to be hot mummy after having my little baby.

For my weight gain, I have gained 6.5kg for the past 6 months. I think I'm still doing well. I used to be worried that baby is not getting enough nutrient as everyone is commenting that my tummy is too small but Dr Karen has been reassuring me that baby's growth is normal, so as my tummy size!

How's daddy doing?

EG has been very excited for his baby. He'd insist to talk to baby every night, kiss baby through tummy and feel a few kicks before he goes sleep. And when he'll be extra excited when baby responded to his calls by giving him a few kicks. Seriously, sometimes I feel that EG is more excited than me! :).

And this daddy-to-be is getting more and more protective over his little angel. He'll warn me to stand further away from the stove while cooking so that baby doesn't feel too hot. He'll make sure I lay down on my left side when I sleep since I told him magazine mentioned that laying on left side improves the circulation and is better for baby - THOUGH laying on right side / flat does no harm either. And he watches my food. All the nutritious or yummy food like beancurd, he'll give me two and tell me one for you, one for baby. Once a while he'll bring me for fast food and will ask me - does baby like fast food? Or he'll say let's bring baby eat something different by bringing me to some other food like indian / thai / italian food or some food that we have not tried for long.

How cute. :)

Little one's growth

While first trimester is crucial for the development of all the organs for baby, 2nd trimester is the time for all organs to grow mature.

During 2nd trimester, all the checkup are just amazing. It never failed to WOW us everytime when we go for our routine monthly checkup. Ahem, excuse us for first time parent. :). I used to think that being pregnant for 9 months feel very long, but wait till I saw the growth of the baby. Baby grows at an incredible rate inside the womb.

In my 2nd checkup, my baby was 10.2mm, and after 4 weeks, when we went for our 3rd checkup, baby has grown to 60.2mm! That's 6x growth in 4 weeks. And later on, they don't use length to measure the baby's size anymore, it got upgraded to 161gm on the 16th week! By then, we saw our baby's little limbs and little body happily growing inside mummy's womb. The feeling was just indescribale.

On my 20th week, my baby has grown from 161gm to 366gm. That's more than double. And baby continues to grow to 714gm after 4 weeks! Imagine the growth rate. We could see a bigger baby inside the womb now. And baby is taking up all the space inside me!

Dr Karen is a very kind doctor. She'll spend time to explain and show us all the organs - from the kidney, to the lungs, to the fingers. She'd also count the fingers and said see - 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 fingers.... I think she's cute sometimes. :)

Having EG as a typical engineer who asks a lot of questions, my ultrasound session always takes longer as the daddy-to-be always has many questions to ask - like what's the baby's position now? what's the baby doing now? how's the baby sleeping now? etc etc... Sometimes I think he'd just take over the ultrasound machine and do the scanning as long as he likes.

Every checkup is such a relief when we know that baby is growing fine inside me. And every checkup makes us more and more excited for the arrival for our little angel.

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Movements

On my 17th week, I felt like there were a lot of gas in my tummy. And I thought there were some movements in the tummy. At first I thought it was due to some indigestion since being pregnant, it's common that the hormone slows down the digestion and cause constipation and I thought it caused this indigestion as well.

However, later I realised, there couldn't be so much gas in my tummy! I can feel it like almost 2-3 times a day. The movement got more and more vigorous and I realised after 2 days that it's the little one doing her somersault inside me..! =)

At first, EG wasn't convinced that it's our little one's movement, but later on I can feel it more and more. I tend to stroke my tummy everytime when she moves, I told EG - that is a sign for me to show that I sayang her... After a few weeks, her kicks got stronger and EG can feel it occasionally. There was once where we woke up later in the morning on a Saturday, and I put my bulging tummy against EG's back and our dear baby actually gave her daddy a few strong kicks!

When I told my gynae this during my checkup, she commented that it's rather early for me to feel the baby's movement in the 17th week as normally others will feel it only on the 20th weeks onwards. Guess my little one is definitely an active & mischievous one!

There was a time when EG was talking and touching my tummy to feel his baby's movement, he asked me why is my tummy senget with a hard bulge on my right side. When I touched it, I felt some real hard thing on the right side of my tummy. I seriously didn't know what was that initially but after a few strokes on the tummy, the bulge went off! How cute! We thought it was either the head or the bum that was bulging out. EG actually commented that maybe the little one thought there wasn't enough space inside me and hence she's moving a lot to get more space...!

As time goes, our baby's movement slowly changed from kicking & quickening to rolling. As I enter my 3rd trimester now, she has been rolling a lot and we can see either her elbow or knee bulge out on my tummy and rolled across from left to right, or from up to down. I like to lift up my shirt at night and let both me and EG watch the "show" my baby is showing at night. EG likes to kiss my tummy and talk to her every night before he sleeps and amazingly, everytime when he calls her, she'll response by having a few kicks - like she knows that her daddy is around..!

Many said that baby would recognise parents' voices if you talk to them often. And parents' voices will soothe them every time they cry. If that's true, I guess my little one will definitely be a daddy's girl next time! =)

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Our Little Princess =)

Finally, I have crossed my first trimester.

There were so much worries and fears inside me during the first trimester as it's the first three months where the most dramatic changes and crucial development occur to the baby. I tried to stay relax and calm, and pray everytime when I feel the fear. And it helps a lot especially when EG has been very supportive and keep comforting me, especially by telling me lots of jokes to make me laugh and feel happy everyday - at least to release my stress inside me.

During our 4th visit to Dr Karen, she already can tell us the gender. I couldn't forget how she put it when she showed us our baby in the ultrasound and telling us.. "See, it looks flattish and nothing-ish..". When I shared with my friends, some of them actually felt offended to have the doctor telling it that way but we were perfectly OK - thought maybe the doctor was just trying to be funny. =) ... And as usual, she moves again and this time, Dr Karen actually commented that she moves extra as compared to other babies! Let's just hope that she won't be too naughty later. =)

Anyway, for me, my first response was slightly disappointed - Chinese traditional thinking kicked in. However, EG has reminded me to guard my emotion so that my baby doesn't feel rejected. Our baby is a gift from God and we should treasure her regardless of the gender. So I brushed off my negative thoughts and started to think of everything that I could do for my little princess. As for EG, he's just excited. He couldn't stop grinning from ear to ear after seeing his little precious one grows well inside me. And I knew he always has something for little girl and when we left the hospital, straight away he told me, "We'll call her Eunice... ".

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Oh Haiz

Our 3rd visit to the gynae might be one of the most memorable one for us.

After the dot with heartbeat blinking on the 2nd visit, we went again on the 11th week for our routine monthly checkup. And this round, to our amaze, we can see our baby in human form. That's really, really amazing.

Dr Karen as explaining to us on our baby's length - from top to the buttock, and showing us baby's little hands, legs, face profile and etc, And SUDDENLY, we thought we saw some movements.

EG asked:"Did the baby just move?" Dr Karen replied:" Yup, see the little hand there? Your baby is touching the face now.. and make a turn, and now your baby is lifting up the hand... " and etc etc.... EG was totally shocked and said, "Wow, the baby moves...." And Dr Karen cooly replied:" Yeah... of course, it's a LIFE ok...! Of course they move!"

After the checkup, EG was floating in cloud-nine for the rest of the few weeks. He kept telling me that our baby was waving at him and said.."Hey Daddy..!" And together, we just couldn't wait for the next few checkups to see our baby again. Sometimes I hope I have an ultrasound machine at home so that I can check what's my baby doing inside there... =)

Besides, this also shows how important it is to have hubby to accompany wife for checkup to see the progress of the baby development together. It's just a joy and miracle to see a life growing inside...

Friday, November 6, 2009

The First Sign of A Life

I know they said when the sperm and the ovum meet, it's already called a life.

But for us, when we first saw the heartbeat of our baby - that's when I was finally convinced that I'm pregnant - carrying a life inside me!

Many friends shared how they were touched and teared when they first saw the heartbeat of their little one inside them during Ultrasound. For EG and I, it was another funny experience.

I was supposed to go for my checkup in my 9th week but we went earlier because EG is going for biz trip in US for 3 weeks. We went and visited our gynae again on the 7th week - just 2 weeks after the first visit. I just wanted to make sure that the 7mm dot grew to make sure that's the right dot - with no other expectation as I heard the heartbeat will normally come between the 8th week to 10th week.

So, as usual, when Dr Karen did the ultrasound, and she told me: "OK, your pregnancy has grown to 10mm now... And from the size, you're now 7th week and your EDD should be on 22nd Feb next year..... ". And I was thinking in my heart - Oh.. that's after Chinese New Year - so it'll be either a little tiger or tigress. And she continued... " And see that blinking stuff.. that's your baby's heartbeat.."

DANG....!

It took a while for me to process her words. EG responded faster than me (unusually) and said:"Huh..?! So fast got heartbeat?!"

I... dunno how to explain my feeling. I was very happy of course as I have heard many cases where some couldn't make it as there wasn't any heartbeat or growth after 10th weeks. And I was relieved and just couldn't stop thanking God for His blessing and protection though I have broken all the pantang larang where the older generations have warned me about (we were moving house - and it's quite impossible to not to do all the moving / drilling / nailing / etc).

Only at this point I finally convinced myself that I'm going to be a mummy! =)

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Changes

Despite all the normal physical changes that I had during pregnancy in early stage, I don't have major problems like what's described in magazines or shown in tv. Except that I was having bad nausea during the first few weeks - and I thought life was meaningless then.

Almost all food didn't taste nice, but I felt constantly hungry. When I was hungry, the nausea feeling got worse, and I feel like eating - nothing! That was really irritating and frustrating. A friend once shared with me that we should enjoy our pregnancy journey as modern people these days only will get pregnant 2 to 3 times in their lifetime - and I thought it was very true. However, at that time, I seriously had no idea how to enjoy my pregnancy.

Thank God for friends. Two friends who are now mummies gave me a good website to track on my pregnancy - Babycenter, and gave me a suggestion to buy ginger biscuits to chew on when I feel nausea. My mum bought organic biscuits, raisins and milk from Miri and spent almost RM20 on postage to send to me to make sure I'm eating something as I told her I was too tired to go buy anything after work, or during weekends. From Babycenter, I read the citrus fruits like oranges and green apples help to improve nausea so I make sure I eat 1 orange and 1 green apple a day.

And thank God, this nightmare is over after a week. And this one week felt like forever...! After that, except for steam fish and vegetables, I was OK with any food that you serve me with. The only thing that I really need in my daily life was sleep. I would head to bed at 10pm and slept all the way till 7am. During weekend, I could sleep for 12 hours.

Physically, I was able to hide my pregnancy up till 4 months. No one in office actually notice that I'm pregnant. But I did notice that my waistline has gotten thicker and I don't look good in any picture anymore as there isn't anymore curvy shape! It was a bit depressing. And I can't fit in my beloved Levi's jeans anymore. All I could wear are those skirts that used to hang on my butt - which later became mini skirts as my tummy grew.

Many asked me how I was doing and my answer is always the same - "Just like normal". In fact, I have never vomitted. Many said I'm really lucky and blessed to have such an easy pregnancy. However, I told EG that it's a blessing from God as He knows that we're all alone in this island, with no family members or relatives nearby who can cook nutritious food for me. I'd need to cook it for myself if I want to eat any nice nutritious food, except if I go back EG's hometown every month. And we might not be able to handle it if I were to have bad morning sickness.

So, I make sure I eat as much as I can to make sure I'm well fed and healthy. My doctor told me not to worry about cholesterol at all as baby will need it to grow - it was like the best news that I have ever heard in my life and since then, I have eggs almost everyday in my meals.

Our Responses

One of the many joyful moments to be married to EG is that we always have many "funny" and memorable first time together. And we can talk and laugh about it for years.

This is another first time experience for us.

I missed my menstrual for 2 weeks and I have decided to buy the test pregnancy kit to test it - when EG was not at home. I used the test pregnancy kit and saw 2 lines in the result. I read the instructions many times to make sure I did it correctly. At that point of time, I was happy. I took a picture of the test result, MMS to EG. He replied and asked me: "What does that mean?". I replied: "1 line means negative, 2 lines means positive. How many line did you see?".

Next, he called back, laughing at the other end of the phone, reconfirming and asking me: "You really kena already?" And I told him... "I think so...". While he's back, I can hear him laughing when he came down from his car going into the house. I asked him if that means he's very happy, and he told me: "Have you seen people laughing and later on cry?"...

At night, when we talked about it, we realised we had no idea what's in front of us. That really made us panic. And I have read and heard so many cases of miscarriages, and it made me even more worried and depressed at times (which might be caused by the hormonal changes as well). We prayed together on that night.

To confirm the pregnancy, we booked an appointment with one recommended gynae @ Island Hospital. During the ultrasound, the doctor told me: "See the dot? That's your pregnancy. And it's now 7mm in length..". To tell you the truth, I was in great doubt and wanted to ask her, "There are so many dots around, are you sure that's the right dot?!" But of course I didn't.

Negative thoughts keep coming into my head and blame it all on the hormonal change! EG wasn't helping much as he had his own struggles to go through for this new stage in life. Both of us were adjusting esp. mentally to even predict what's going to happen next, and in the end we just got more stressed out!

Of course we informed our parents about this. And next I shared the "secret" with my girlfriends in KL and a few close friends from church - getting them to pray for me as it's the only thing that can help me at that time. We thank God for EPCC where our church always provides help when we need it. We also met up with our Family First pastor (who in charge of all family matters in church) and had a 1-1 session with a doctor from our church - and those sessions help A LOT when we know more about pregnancy.

Anyway, I was still in a panic mode and kept sending emails to my girlfriends in KL for more information or their experiences. And I have been praying and praying that everything will just go fine.

And it did. =)

A New Journey Ahead

We have been married for 1 year 9 months 2 weeks and 3 days as I'm writing this (by referring to our wedding website - and yeah, I still visit the webpage once a while to make sure all links are working :P).

Throughout our marriage, questions like - When are you getting pregnant? When are you guys planning on your next generation, and etc, never stop to bombard us. I started thinking about it this year and tried to convince my dear hubby to take a step out with faith to go to our next level in our lives together.

With not much hard work, I found out that I'm pregnant in June. Unlike the movies or magazine where the going-to-be parents will be shouting in joy and jumping around, where hubby might carry the wife up and turn a few rounds in air, in fact, the first feeling that both of us had then was - panicked, stressed out, and worried. Mainly because we just moved to a new place and still settling down with many things, and we felt helpless that we're all alone in this land with no family members nearby us. The feeling is really.... helpless.

I have been reading about some trying so hard to conceive due to the stress in work, health and many issues. For me I also didn't expect it to happen so fast. Well, like EG always said, at least we know that we're fine and things work fine in us. =). At least that makes us feel slightly better.

While I'm starting this blog, I'm closing to the end of my 2nd trimester and entering my 3rd trimester. Many things happen after this little bundle of joy came into our lives and I thought it'll be good not only to share this joy with many, but also to let my family members who're far from us to read and know what's happening to our child (and later more children).

I'll recall what happened in the past few months and jot down the joyful moments. It's a wonderful journey so far and I'm sure with God's blessing, it'll also be a wonderful journey ahead of us.

About Mamabeh

If getting married is a big decision in one's life, having children is a even bigger milestone in life! Having a life growing inside not only change us physically, mentally & our daily life routines, but it's also amazing that how we have grown closer to move forward for the new life ahead of us.

Eunice's Growth

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Day 1 @ 0 mth @ 3.28kg, 50cm
Wk 5 @ 1 mth @ 4.80kg, 51cm
Wk 9 @ 2 mth @ 5.60kg, 52cm
Wk 14 @ 3 mth @ 6.55kg, 57cm
Wk 17 @ 4 mth @ 6.90kg, 61cm
Wk 21 @ 5 mth @ 7.40kg, 62cm
Wk 26 @ 6 mth @ 7.70kg, 64cm
Wk 30 @ 7 mth @ 8.10kg, 67cm
Wk35 @ 8 mth @ 8.30kg, 68cm
Wk40 @ 9 mth @ 8.50kg, 70cm
12 months @ 9kg, 70cm
13 months @ 9.35kg, 74cm
14.5 months @ 9.4kg, 74cm
17 months @ 9.9kg, 74cm
18.5 months @ 10.4kg, 77cm
2 yrs @ 11.5kg, 84cm
2 yrs 5 mth @ 11.9kg, 85cm
2 yrs 8 mth @ 12.2kg, 86.5cm
4 yrs 9 mth @ 17kg

Natalie's Growth

Lilypie Third Birthday tickers

Day 1 @ 0 mth @ 3.36kg, 51cm
Wk 5 @ 1 mth @ 4.70kg, 55cm
Wk 10 @ 2 mth @ 5.82kg, 57cm
Wk13 @ 3 mth @ 6.40kg, 59cm
Wk18 @ 4 mth @ 6.82kg, 61.5cm
Wk23 @ 5 mth @ 7.13kg, 65cm
Wk29 @ 6 mth @ 7.60kg, 66cm
12.5 mth @ 8.64kg, 70cm
13.5 mth @ 8.86kg, 70cm
18 mth @ 9.20kg, 76cm
2 yrs 1 mth @ 11.3kg, 83.5cm
2 yrs 2 mth @ 12kg

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